“I don’t do feelings. Can EFT still help?”
Many people ask about this. With EFT, you don’t need to be able to easily access feelings to make big strides. Words are enough, even if emotions don’t appear to be present, to shake things loose, allow cognitive shifts and even open up feelings where they were locked before. Words like, “He said he doesn’t like me anymore,” or “I hate getting up in the morning,” carry the energy of feelings unique to each of us. In essence, the words we use embody the thoughts and feelings we are going through at any given time. This is why a skilled practitioner will reflect your words back to you during the EFT process, and why talking to ourselves during our own practice makes such a big difference in our results.
“How many sessions will it take?”
I often say to prospective clients that healing is a process, not an event. EFT is an investment in your emotional health, and, while results tend to be profound, EFT is not a magic pill. Sometimes it only takes a short time to make progress that is, as Energy Tapping pioneer Fred Gallo says, “rapid, dramatic and deep.” Often, however, multiple sessions are required to untangle a complex issue. There may be many aspects to consider and handle in small “bites” for maximum, lasting impact.
With this in mind, skillful EFT delivery consistently facilitates dramatic results. Challenges that have appeared over years or even decades can release in a relatively short period of time. It is my experience that nearly everyone leaves an EFT session feeling better than when they arrived. I know and trust this process, expect a positive outcome and bring this confidence and energy to every session.
In our session, we will:
- Address where you are in relation to your dreams and goals
- Feel out what thoughts, beliefs and emotions may be ‘behind’ your presenting issues
- Allow for circumstances that maximize the probability for dramatic results
- Work steadily towards complete relief
Many people appreciate a little EFT ‘homework’ to help them along. In my experience, those who are persistent and ‘tap’ for themselves outside of our session often report the most profound, long-lasting progress.
“I did EFT and it didn’t help. What went wrong?”
Some EFT practitioners and newcomers work only on the physical symptoms. While this kind of mechanical EFT can have surprising results, in my experience consistent success involves what (EFT Developer) Gary Craig calls identifying the emotional contributors that may be driving the problem. This can be the difference between getting nowhere and complete success. For example, we may need to address feelings about who’s behind that “pain in your neck,” before the pain will release.
Sometimes EFT progress involves something like a two steps forward, one step back effect. Where others may give up, I see this as an opportunity to address resistance. You may have just begun to truly commit to changing course in your life and there may be a part of you that’s understandably determined to keep you in your comfort zone – protecting you from the perceived effects of failure or success – sabotaging your progress. Who would you be if you didn’t have this problem? Who would you have to be to let go of it? How would you spend your time if you didn’t eat / shop / drink compulsively anymore? What scares you about making these changes? An experienced coach will ask you these kinds of questions, encouraging you to recognize your progress, be persistent, one step at a time, towards complete relief. Sometimes it’s important to remember that incremental progress is still progress.